He also talked about the 3 stages of life. The beginning, middle and end. Everybody must suffer in one of these parts of life. People are afraid to suffer but if you get over it earlier you will be happier later. Among other afflictions, he suffered when his father died and he took the responsibility of caring for his siblings. His instructor sat him down one day and told him his suffering was over. It makes me realize how lucky I am and it makes me scared, I see people suffering and my life is too perfect. It makes me scared because I do not know when I will have to suffer.
He talked about pride and shame, two sides of a coin. He said most people protect their pride but that gets you nothing. You should act to prevent shame. That doesn’t make full sense to me, but I guess its kind of like if you have to do 100 pushups and you have 1 minute. If you are protecting your pride then you will stop when the minute is up even if you haven’t done the 100 pushups. If you are protecting your shame you will do the 100 pushups even if it takes you more than a minute because it is shameful to not finish the pushups and the only reason you would stop before is because you are too proud to go past the minute.
He also talked about the Jedi mind trick. How people react to your energy. If you make eye contact with someone and look somewhere else, they’ll look too. If you talk a lot with someone who is shy and quiet they’ll start talking more. If you are quiet around someone who is loud they’ll get quieter. You can transfer your energy. He said it’d work with parents too. If you are calm and react calmly then you’ll get that in return. It's like when you push someone, they will usually push back. People will mirror it back. We’ve literally been taught to pull when someone pushes and vice versa so we must react calmly to anger and our calmness with be reflected in that person. He also said we must remember that it is our parents first time parenting; they’re winging it too. He said that we must always remember to look at our situations through the other person’s point of view.